Am I the only one who thinks that hitting a kid and abuse are different things? Like, if I ever had a kid, I wouldn’t spank their ass raw or something like that. But a bop on the mouth or the ear pull or a smack upside the head? Yea. Those are behavior modifiers.
Except they’re not.
The studies done by the trained psychologists in this joke show that little kids don’t associate being hit with the thing they’ve done wrong. Very small children only understand consequences that are directly caused by the thing they did. Steal a biscuit, biscuit tastes good. Then for no reason mummy hit me. Very different to stole a biscuit, now no biscuit after dinner because I stole a biscuit.
And they also show that when a child is old enough to understand why they are being hit that non-physical punishment is equally as effective and less mentally harmful in the long run.
Do you know who benefits the most from hitting as a punishment? The parent. It gives a satisfaction rush. Parents do it because it makes them feel good.
Basically kids have two stages: too young to understand why they are being hit so physical punishment is useless for anything other than teaching a child that bigger stronger people can hit you whenever they like (Which sounds like the same lesson you would learn from abuse)
And the second stage is old enough to be reasoned with so many punishment options are available and you chose physical violence because it makes *you* feel better, which is an abusive action.
The only time a person should ever use violence against another human being, of any age, is to stop that person from being violent themselves.
Hitting a stranger is a crime. Hitting someone small who relies on you for food, love, and shelter should be as well. Don’t hit your fucking kid.
me and my wife are currently unemployed, and because of certain medical conditions i need to buy a blood pressure monitor to constantly monitor my blood pressure, and we don’t have money. if i can monitor my blood pressure and prove it’s lowered (and continue taking steps to lower it), then my doctor will allow me to go back on HRT, which I have now been off of for almost 6 months (and i am Losing My Mind about it)
we also have rent and bills due, and i also have several teeth in very bad shape and need to be able to go to the dentist Very Soon because at least one of them is starting to affect my sinuses on that side
Hello everyone, my name is Ewa, I’m from Poland. My mom was diagnosed with CERVICAL CANCER stage 3B G2 back in June (SQUAMUS CELL CARCINOMA G2; Carcinoma planoepitheliale G2, invasio carcinomatosa vasorum). Since then she had only FIVE RADIATIONS (20 Gy in total) and that’s all - NO PLANS FOR CHEMO OR SURGERY. She may receive a few more radiations next year only if she’s still alive til that time and there’s an extensive bleeding. Otherwise no.
Her health problems began in February, since then she had JJ tubes put in both ureters which later were replaced with nephrostomy tubes in both kidneys. She had a massive Enterococcus faecium infection treated with Vancomycin. Lately she had another massive infection when docs put a nephrostomy tube in her left kidney. It was treated with Linezolid.
SHE DOESN’T EAT ANYMORE, SHE CAN’T GET UP, SHE CAN’T TAKE A SHOWER, SHE CAN’T DO ANYTHING ANYMORE.
Her oncologist didn’t give her a referral to a hospice nor a palliative care specialist. I had to beg my mom’s GP to receive them. We were left alone. We don’t have any family, there’s only she and I. I’m disabled person with several chronic conditions. I have to have a knee surgery but I can’t go to a hospital right now, I have to be with my mom all the time and take care of her.
I’M BEGGING FOR HELP TO BUY A WHEELCHAIR, ANTI PRESSURE ULCERS MATTRESS, NUTRICIA DRINKS, URINE COLLECTION BAGS, ANTIBIOTICS AND PROBIOTICS IF NEEDED, SUPPLEMENTS LIKE POTASSIUM, CRP HOME TESTS AND CBD OIL.
I can’t afford all that due to a very small income.
Please, I’m begging you, help me and my mom. I can provide all medical documents if requested but I have them only in Polish.
It’s only a brief description of what has been happening in the last few months. If you’re interested I can tell whole story from the beginning.
I’m absolutely devastated for my good friend Eve and her Mother. Women in Poland face struggles every day and the health system does not provide for people like it should. Not all people have a comfortable life with good health care systems and support with pain management. Eve has her own health struggles to contend with also.
Eve has been with the community for years now and her Failure Family has been a great source of laughs for me, and many of you I know. Never one to cause drama, a kind, intelligent and caring person, one we need more of! Eve has been through a lot over the past couple of years, help her out if you can, please.
Every girl deserves to be with her Mum as long as possible.
